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On conquering fear…

You know how I’m terrified of spiders? And you know how I’m determined not to pass that phobia on to Xander? Well, there was a spider in the bath last week. I told Xander that he was just having a little wander around and then Daddy would rescue him when he got home. Xander then asked, “Why don’t YOU just rescue Insy Winsy, Mummy?”

So I got a piece of card and a plastic pot, and I guided that spider on to the card, trapped him with the pot, and released him on the veranda wall so he could “go home”.

Xander seemed impressed. He told me, “That was very kind of you, Mummy. Now Insy Winsy can go home to HIS Mummy and not be lost any more!”

Granted, the spider was only the size of my thumb nail, but this is a MAJOR step for me. My heart is beating so fast as I type this that it feels like it could burst as I was so scared. But I kept that smile on my face the whole time (thank Gods I’m a good actor!).

That day I was the bravest Mummy in the world, and my little boy doesn’t even know it!

This morning I had to remove yet another (significantly larger, this time!*) Insy Winsy from our bath. I did it without hesitation and without visibly wigging out. This, however, is not the reason I feel proud. No, the reason I feel so proud is that I’ve just realised it’s become so commonplace that I forgot to even mention it to Dale today. (Mental high-five to self!)

* By “significantly larger” I mean if was one of those where the body is about the size of the tip of my thumb and THEN there are the long legs. Not quite a fill-your-palm spider, but heading that way!

I’m proud of myself.

Today I Am Awesome!

Of course, that’s not to say that if another shows up and Dale is home, I won’t make HIM deal with it – they still make me feel sick with fear inside I’m just getting better at hiding that from Xan!

My new hobby – crochet!

I very recently got into a new crafty hobby – crochet! I know, I know, it’s another “granny craft” – my hubby and sister are always joking that with my cross stitch, and now crochet too, people would be forgiven for thinking I’m in my 80s, not my 30s, but I reassure them that needlecrafts are the rock and roll of the crafting world! Yes, it’s now COOL to crochet, cross stitch, quilt, knit and do any number of other needlecrafts.

All the big celebrities are doing it. I kid you not – big stars who like to knit include Christina Hendricks, Felicity Huffman, Katherine Heigl, Kristen Davis, Sarah Jessica Parker, Dakota Fanning, Julia Roberts, Cameron Diaz, and even David Arquette (yes, the guys are getting in on the action too!). And those are just some of the knitters! Crocheters include Madonna, Meryl Streep, Debra Messing and Bette Midler. That’s right – her Madgesty is hooked on the hook!

And with pioneering peeps such as Mr. Cross Stitch rocking the world of cross stitch, being into needlecrafts has never been so cool!

Anyway, back to my own early attempts at crochet. I did a few practice squares of a few stitches last year, but it was only a couple of months ago that I decided to seriously give it a try and I’ve now completed two afghans (the first of which I can’t show yet, because it’s a gift for someone and they don’t have it yet!), and have started work on a third!

Here’s the colourful blanket I very recently completed for my lovely son, Xander. Look at his little face! He was so excited to see it finished and on his bed (which is completely covers, by the way!) that he actually squealed! He doesn’t often agree to pose for photographs, but he was more than happy to sit with Mr. Wuffles and let me snap this picture of him sitting on his newly covered bed. He snuggles down under it watching the television as well as in bed at night. He  loves it!

I also made a cushion to match his blanket. He was a bit unsure at first because he liked the old red faux leather cushion covers we had before, but since then he’s decided he rather likes it after all (phew!) and has it on his bed to lean against when he’s looking at his books. They’re both just a simple granny square design, so the project grew very quickly.

Then I decided to make a cover for my Cyclone tablet computer. I didn’t follow a pattern at all – It’s just single crochet till the pieces were large enough to cover the tablet, then crocheted together in single crochet. I made two little crochet buttons to fasten it.

The front is in lime green, the back is tangerine, and the flap and buttons are lemon yellow, so it’s a very fruity-coloured case!

Now I’ve begun work on an afghan for my own bed. It will be in very muted tones of white, light grey and dark grey, and will feature a circle-in-a-square motif. I’ve actually designed my own pattern for this quilt, which is a big step for me! Watch this space for progress pictures as it grows!

Kid-Speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…

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Know Me Better…

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This week the questions are all holiday themed

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Kid-speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…

Xander hasn’t been very well this week – a cough and a high temperature have made him feel rather under the weather, but it hasn’t stopped him being a sweet little boy. In fact, I’ve found that when he’s ill, he tends to be on his best behaviour – perhaps because he doesn’t have the energy to act up! Continue reading

Stitchy Saturday

Each Saturday, I will feature either something I’m currently stitching, something I’ve just finished stitching, or something I’ve just designed. I hope you’ll all join me in displaying some of your own work and leaving a link to your post in the comments below.

I have a whole host of festive designs at my Kincavel Krosses blog for all my stitching friends whose needles are flying in anticipation of Christmas. I also have non-festive ones for those who fancy something a bit different. Take a look and see…

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Kid-speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…

The festive season is fast approaching and although as I type this I am all sorted in the gift shopping and wrapping department, we have started to tentatively approach the subject of Santa Claus with Xander who, at three-years-old, is now getting to an age where he might start to understand such things. So far he shown more than a little apprehension at the thought of a strange man creeping into our home while we’re all sleeping (which is fair enough, really), but all year he’s said he would really like some bridges for his train set. Continue reading

Kid-speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…


We all know kids love watching television (well, most of them do) and they get bombarded with all kinds of shows aimed at them, from Ballamory to In the Night Garden to Mr Bloom’s Nursery to I Can Cook. However, it’s not always the kids’ shows they like best, as was proven to me this week.

Xander has recently taken an interest in helping me in the kitchen. Mostly I’m baking when he wants to lend a hand – biscuits, cakes, scones, you name it, I’ve baked it – but he’s also been slowly creeping into wanting to help me make our meals too. It started with pizza – helping make he base from scratch, spreading the sauce, grating the cheese, and adding the toppings – but it’s happening more and more often with other foods too.

Although I love cooking, I think one of the main reasons Xander has suddenly shown an interest in the kitchen is because we’ve been watching Fabio Viviani‘s Chow Ciao videos on Yahoo together and he really enjoys them. In fact, whenever we watch one of those videos, Xander shouts out,

“Chow Ciao, Fabio!”

Then he snuggles on my lap and watches, all the while giving a running commentary on what’s happening, “Look, Mummy, he’s putting the oil in. Now he’s got the tomatoes. Now he’s got it on the cooker. Mmmmm it looks yummy. Is it tasty, Fabio?”

So, it seems that children’s shows can take a back seat once in a while, and we can watch a cookery show or two, even if they’re all under seven minutes long, and we can both learn something new together.

And then we can try to recreate  it together in the kitchen!

What did your kid say lately?

Kid-speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…

We’re always hearing about how demanding kids are for the latest toy or gadget they’ve seen advertised (we cheat and get around it by making sure the only TV channel Xander ever sees is CBeebies as it has no adverts!), but more often than not, all they really want is to spend time with us, and often doing an activity that costs very little, if not nothing at all.

Take last week, for example. Xander and I had an impromptu day of culture when he decided that he wanted to go to the library to pick out some new books for us to read together. Usually we would hop on the bus there and back, but this time, Xander decided he wanted to walk into town. So we did.

Then we got to the library and had a lovely time choosing a batch of books. Then it was time to go, but Xan wasn’t ready to go home just yet. Instead he said,

“I want to go to the art gallery. I really like the art gallery!”

We’d been a couple of times before and he’d enjoyed it, but I hadn’t realised how much he’d enjoyed it. Entry to the gallery is free too. (The photo I’ve used today shows Xander gazing with glee at one of his favourite exhibits – I guess art is in the eye of the beholder, because I just don’t “get” this particular piece.) Then he fancied a stroll through the graveyard across the road (just like me, he has a great love of graveyards!). And then he decided he wanted to walk home, rather than get the bus.

He was absolutely shattered when we got home, but we’d had a lovely day and it hadn’t cost us a single penny.

Sometimes it takes a child to remind us the best things in life really are free!

What did your kid say lately?

Kid-speak Sunday

Being a Mum is the best job in the world and sometimes there’s the added bonus of hearing your kids come out with an absolute gem…

Everyone parent I know likes to think their kid is special in some way and I’m no exception – Xan is a smart little lad who knows all his letters, can do basic spelling and is beginning to recognise some written words; can do basic addition and subtraction; and is a wonderfully sensitive and loving boy.

See? He’s special! He’s the best little lad in the world and, of course, we want him to know that, so we tell him. The other day, though, Xander surprised me with his response to praise and being told he’s special:

“I’m not special. I’m ordinary. I’m just Xander!”

He said it with a smile too.

And you know what? I’m glad. I’m so pleased that he’s happy just being who he is. It’s perfectly alright for him to be an ordinary little boy, doing what three-year-old boys do and having fun.

I only hope I don’t ever put too much pressure on him to be anything other than himself. It’s difficult to get the right balance between being encouraging and supportive of your child, and going overboard, being pushy and instilling a belief in your child that they must always do better.

I, for one, will be happy if Xan just tries his best. Whether he comes first or last, so long as he’s done the best that he can do, that’s fine by me. I love him just the way he is and I always will. Now I just have to get him to realise it’s alright that Mummy and Daddy think he’s a little smasher, because he is!

What did your kid say lately that made you smile, laugh, cry, or simply think twice?